The Manual You Didn't Write: Why Other People's Behavior Isn't the Problem and How to Reclaim Your Peace After the Church
We don't usually realize it, but most of us are carrying an unwritten rulebook about how the people around us should behave so that we can feel okay. Brooke Castillo calls it a manual, and in this episode I unpack why it has such a fierce grip on those of us who grew up Mormon — where the manuals weren't unwritten at all. They were handed to us, assigned to God, and wired straight into whether we believed we were good women, good wives, good mothers.
I talk about why other people's behavior doesn't actually create our feelings, where that idea holds up and where it absolutely does not. And I make the case that taking one hundred percent responsibility for your own needs isn't lonely or isolating — it's the thing that finally makes real intimacy possible.
When you stop grading the people you love against a rulebook they never agreed to, you get to actually see them, and they get to actually show up. If this episode names something you've been carrying, my free intuition webinar on June 25th at 11am is the next step. It's about reclaiming the inner knowing the manual taught you to override. Register through the link below.
