34- Why I Hate Self Care

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We’re told self-care is the answer — but what if it makes you feel irritated, resistant, or worse? In this episode, I talk about why I hate self-care sometimes — and why that doesn’t mean something is wrong with me.

For many women, especially those raised in high-control or performance-based systems, self-care becomes another obligation. Another way to self-monitor. Another quiet demand to feel better, faster. When self-care turns into something you should do — instead of something that actually supports you — your nervous system pushes back.

That resistance isn’t laziness or ingratitude. It’s information. This episode isn’t about finding the perfect self-care routine. It’s about reclaiming care that doesn’t require self-abandonment, positivity, or fixing yourself.

In This Episode, We Explore: Why self-care can feel annoying, heavy, or fake How “should-based” self-care becomes control in disguise

Why your body may resist things that are supposed to help

How obligation turns care into performance

What real, supportive self-care actually feels like

Key Insight If self-care feels like pressure, it’s no longer care. True care doesn’t ask you to override yourself — it asks you to listen.