36 - Audacity over Permission

Audacity Over Permission Why Waiting Isn’t Wisdom—and Showing Up Changes Everything.

We’re often taught that patience is a virtue. That waiting is wise. That if we just prepare a little more, heal a little more, learn a little more—then we’ll be ready to speak, create, lead, or take up space.

But for many women—especially those raised in high-demand or patriarchal systems—waiting isn’t neutral.

It’s conditioning. In this episode, we talk about audacity: not arrogance, not recklessness—but the willingness to show up without permission, certainty, or guarantees.

Using the character of Aaron Burr from Hamilton as a lens, we explore how “I’m willing to wait for it” can sound wise while quietly keeping us stuck. Burr believes he’s special. He believes his moment will come. He believes that restraint is strategy. But waiting doesn’t create authority. Showing up does.

In this episode, we explore: How “good reasons” for waiting often mask fear, socialization, and self-distrust The difference between humility and self-erasure ,Why lived experience is a legitimate source of authority How social movements, creative work, and personal change are rarely led by people who felt “ready”

We also talk about how many men are culturally rewarded for confidence without competence—while women are trained to require proof, permission, and polish before daring to act. The cost of that imbalance isn’t just personal—it’s collective.

Audacity isn’t: Knowing exactly what you’re doing Being fearless Having credentials, titles, or approval Audacity is: Speaking from lived experience, creating before you feel qualified, letting yourself be seen while still figuring it out, refusing to wait for a system that was never designed to invite you in If you’ve been telling yourself you’re “not ready yet,” this episode is an invitation to question that story—and to consider what might happen if you stopped waiting for the perfect moment and started responding to what this moment is asking of you.