Beyond the Rulebook: How to Build a Values-Driven Life After the Mormon Church

What do you do with your conscience when the institution that claimed to own it is gone? This episode is about one of the most disorienting parts of leaving — not the grief, not the social fallout, but the quiet, unsettling question underneath all of it: who decides what's right now?

Many women leave and find themselves in one of two places: doing all the things they were told not to do (without asking whether they actually want to), or frozen — too afraid to make any move in case it's wrong. Both patterns have the same root.

Neither one is actually freedom. In this episode, Kristin unpacks the difference between rules and values — because a lot of what Mormonism called morality had nothing to do with morality. And she offers five places to look when you're trying to find out what you actually value, not what you were handed.

In this episode: Why leaving the church doesn't automatically put you in the driver's seat of your own moral life The difference between compliance and character — and why the church confused them How to use resentment, admiration, anger, and joy as values signals

What values-construction actually looks like in real decisions (money, ritual, marriage, parenting) Why your goodness was always yours — the church just convinced you it wasn't

Resources + next steps: Ready to do this work in community? The MUSE Method is a six-week small group experience for women who are done unraveling and ready to build. We start April 20th. Keep finding your way back. APPLY HERE